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A consciously and sensitively woven holistic, cohesive blend of: positive psychology, mindset reset, NLP techniques, Jungian archetypes, progressive embodiment methods, life visioning, spiritual liberation, emotional freedom techniques, mindfulness & somatic healing methods all designed to return you to your natural state of purposeful potential.

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I coach at the 'core' level, (inside out) so this list is just a sample of common client goals

Highly Sensitive, People Pleasers, Healers & Empaths

Exhausted? You've got a hidden superpower! But it's hidden underneath other people's needs and drowning in liquid boundaries. Learn to leverage your strengths, generate unlimited potential all without getting bogged down by other people's needs and energies.

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Self Love & Acceptance

We cut right to the heart of where that limitless potential Self has been hiding all this time and why you've come to be this way. You will find joy in discovering the real you, delight in shattering your limiting beliefs, and build compassion to love all the parts of you again. You will become a better partner, lover and friend to them and to you!

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High-energy, Perfectionist, Superwoman

You've got lots of energy and you're not afraid to use it...but it's scattered! You frequently experience impending burnout, fatigue, FOMO or end up spinning your wheels going nowhere...and fast! How you plan, balance and approach life isn't normal, now is it? So don't expect this program to give you more to-dos that will never make it to the 'master list'. What you need is clear, concise and executable.

The balanced path to stay supercharged starts now

Past Abuse & Trauma

Wouldn't you like to liberate yourself from your past wounds that somehow seem to never heal? You're so over thinking: Why does this keep happening? What am I doing wrong? How can I get back to who I was? Will anyone ever love me again? These are the deep, dark questions you ask yourself in the cold dark night. Come back to the light! We'll illuminate the path that leads you back home to your inner sanctuary where healing is effortless.

The pathway to liberation starts here

Living On The Edge

You're dangerously on edge. You don't quite know how you got here, where to start (and on what!?), what to do and maybe that's because you're not even sure where you're going! All you know is that you've got a burning in your chest, a wobble in your throat and a niggling feeling at the back of your head that won't go away. Something needs to happen. Like now. Or you think you're going to lose it. Or will you be lost? You really don't know.

Your awakening continues here

My Mission

To create transformative, embodied healing experiences that empower people to break free from their past, embrace their unique strengths, and live with joy, purpose, and authenticity.

My Philosophy

You have all that you need to heal, move and grow...locked inside you. I'll help illuminate your path to get the keys.

My Promise

To foster an environment of trust, authentic connection, mutual respect, and loving acceptance of who you are.

My Guarantee

You are only one shift away from changing your life. And all it takes is a little conversation to get your started!

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Stop Sabotaging Your Relationships!

January 04, 20234 min read

“She remembers bridges and burns 'em to the ground .” - Seven Mary Three


In the dance of life, we may sometimes stumble and fall. It is human to react impulsively or defensively in moments of fear, frustration, or misunderstanding. However, patterns of behavior that include excessive overreaction, hurtful words, or building impenetrable walls can damage the intricate web of our relationships.

You may recognize the words of a song, "She remembers the bridges...burns them to the ground." But are you aware that this could be reflecting your reality? If so, I invite you to explore this with a gentle and open heart, for there's beauty in transformation.

3 Reasons

If you find resonance with three or more of these behaviors, fear not. Your relationships may be calling for attention, but through awareness and nurturing, they can blossom once again. Remember, these behaviors don't define you; they're often a response to past experiences and beliefs. Together, we'll walk the path towards understanding and healing.

  1. Mindful Communication: Notice how your words land with others. If a loved one seems taken aback, this may be your sign to pause and reflect.

    • Example 1: During a discussion with a friend, you notice their eyes widen as you passionately express your opinion. This can be a sign to pause and ask if something you said may have surprised or unsettled them.

    • Example 2: Your partner's body language suddenly becomes closed and guarded during a conversation. Recognizing this, you might take a moment to gently inquire about what might have caused this change.

  2. Emotional Awareness: If apologies frequently follow heated moments, take time to explore what triggers these reactions.

    • Example 1: After an intense argument with a family member, you find yourself constantly apologizing. Reflecting on this pattern may help you recognize a specific trigger, such as feeling disrespected.

    • Example 2: You feel regret after snapping at a colleague and realize that personal stress has been influencing your reactions. Acknowledging this underlying cause allows for growth and healing.

  3. Understanding Intentions: Misinterpretations can lead to conflict. Seek to understand others' meanings and motives through compassionate inquiry.

    • Example 1: A friend's comment feels judgmental, but upon asking them what they meant, you realize they were trying to express concern, not criticism.

    • Example 2: You misinterpret a colleague's enthusiasm for a project as trying to overshadow you. Through open dialogue, you understand that their intention was collaboration and excitement.

  4. Releasing Control: Dominating conversations can stifle connection. Practice patience, and allow others to express themselves.

    • Example 1: In a group discussion, you consciously choose to speak less and listen more, allowing others the space to share their perspectives.

    • Example 2: You notice your tendency to lead conversations with your partner and make a mindful effort to ask open-ended questions, encouraging them to express themselves more freely.

  5. Embracing Vulnerability: Fear of others' opinions can limit growth. Embrace the power of vulnerability, and ask for loving feedback.

    • Example 1: You feel uncertain about your performance at work and bravely ask for feedback from your supervisor, openly receiving their insights and suggestions.

    • Example 2: You express to a close friend that you're feeling sensitive about a specific topic and invite them to share their thoughts, creating a safe space for mutual vulnerability.

  6. Physical Connection: If you feel persistently tense, explore ways to reconnect with your body and find relaxation without external substances.

    • Example 1: Recognizing a persistent tension in your shoulders, you decide to explore mindful stretching or yoga, fostering a connection with your body.

    • Example 2: You observe that you've been holding your breath during stressful moments and begin to practice deep, mindful breathing to help reconnect with your body's natural rhythm.

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Your Path to Healing: A Loving Invitation

If you recognize yourself in these reflections, take heart! Awareness is the first step towards change and growth. You are not alone in this journey, and the desire to evolve is a beautiful beginning.

Here are three essential practices to cultivate healthier relationships:

  1. Active Listening: Allow others to speak without interruption. Be present, look into their eyes, and truly hear them. This single skill can be transformative.

  2. Compassionate Inquiry: Encourage open dialogue with your loved ones. A gentle question like, "Beloved, can we discuss this behavior so I may understand and reflect?" can create a healing space.

  3. Regular Self-Reflection: Consistent attention and effort in understanding oneself can lead to profound growth in relationships.

Your relationships are sacred, and with care, patience, and intention, they can flourish. Embrace these practices, and you may find that the bridges you once burned become pathways to deeper connection and love.

With much love and curiosity,

XOXO Shandra

P.S. Need guidance, support or mentoring? Book your complimentary Discovery Call here to see how I can help.

P.S.S. Want to dive deeper into this topic? Check out my Relationship Rescue course, coming soon!

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Shandra Artura

Triple Certified Master NLP Life Coach and Embodied Healing Expert

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