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"Successfully leveled up core emotional skill trees grant us some awesome loot to help us in the game of life. By meeting your core emotional needs, you can earn the Seers Stone (ability to recognize and name our emotions), Monk's Ring (increased emotional resilience and flexibility), and the Perception Buff (ability to tune into the emotional needs of another).
In contrast, inadequately developed core emotional skill trees leave us susceptible to the harsher in-game experiences, attract way more baddies to deal with, lead us to maps with characters we have no defenses for and give the potential to experience debuffs that weaken our ability to understand, manage and control our own emotions and behavior."

Making excuses is a common practice that many people engage in, especially when they're faced with a situation that they don't want to deal with or take responsibility for. In the world of video games, making excuses is similar to using cheats or hacks to advance in the game. Just as these shortcuts can take away from the fun and challenge of the game, making excuses can detract from personal growth and accountability in real life.
One common excuse people make is blaming others for their mistakes. In video games, this would be like blaming the game or the controller for a failure to progress. However, just as a skilled player learns to adapt to the game mechanics and control their character, it's important for individuals to take ownership of their actions and find ways to overcome obstacles.
Another common excuse is procrastination. In the gaming world, this would be like not playing the game and instead relying on a friend or online guide to progress. Or by starting a game and only doing the side quests but never progressing in the real story. Worse, you may rely on cheat codes or game hacks. While this might get you to the next level, it's important to develop your own skills and strategies so that you can succeed on your own. Similarly, in real life, it's important to take action and tackle challenges head-on rather than delaying or avoiding them altogether.
Excuses can also stem from fear of failure. This would be like refusing to attempt a challenging level or boss because of the potential for failure or because it's just 'too hard'. Okay, I may have done that a time or two or three ;) But just as a player must attempt challenges multiple times in order to learn from their mistakes and improve their skills, it's important for individuals to embrace failure as an opportunity for growth and development. You get stronger just by the attempt at winning!
Finally, some people make excuses by convincing themselves that the task at hand is impossible or too difficult to achieve. This would be like giving up on a level or game entirely because it seems too challenging. However, by breaking down a difficult task into smaller, more manageable pieces and developing a plan, individuals can make progress and eventually achieve their goals.
Ultimately, making excuses can be a hindrance to personal growth and success. By approaching challenges with a mindset of responsibility and perseverance, individuals can learn to overcome obstacles and achieve their goals. In the world of video games and in real life, the path to success is paved with determination, resilience, and the willingness to learn from mistakes.
While I know it can be hard...I also know you are much stronger than you give your Self credit for. So, get on it and just DO IT!
Much love & curiosity,
Shandra
Life Level Designer & Baddie Slayer 🎮

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